Drawing from Wallace Wattles’ The Science of Getting Rich and many years of experience and research, Phillip Mountrose shares 4 essential keys to consciously living your dreams.
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Is your thinking right? Phillip Mountrose shows you how to increase your positive thinking by overcoming negative thoughts in this short video. He describes 3 “mental trip wires” that can throw you off.
Positive thinking is a good thing but what about all those negative thoughts you have?
You may want a better relationship or income, but are you focusing on the positive or the negative?
Here are three common “mental trip wires” that can set us off on the wrong track, sometimes surprisingly quickly, maybe without us even knowing it.
You may have heard the wise advice, “criticize the behavior, not the child.” A child yelling in public doesn’t mean the child is “bad.” There may be some adjusting involved, but that doesn’t invalidate the child’s self-worth.
So too with adults. When we label ourselves or others as being “bad’ or “stupid,” for example, that doesn’t do anything but make us feel lousy.
Try to improve and use feedback to your advantage, not as a measure of your value as a human being.
2. Focusing too much on the negative.
“That project is a failure.” “It never works out for me.” “It looks like it won’t happen for me, again.”
When we focus too much on the negative, we often fall prey to absolutist language — “it always fails;” “it never goes my way,” etc.
Get the feedback you need again, reset and move on.
The third trip wire goes off when we see ourselves as a victim. Fill in the blank: “I can’t succeed because of ________ [my family, my education, the government, etc.].
The idea is to realize things influence us yet we control our response and our thinking. The idea is to take as much responsibility for ourselves as we can.
Quantum physics tells us we are all connected, regardless of location. This “nonlocality” means we can switch our thoughts in an instant.We can use virtually anything to help us, rather than hinder us.
Of course EFT can help us change from negative to positive thinking, often quite quickly.
We can be aware of our thoughts and avoid these 3 mental trip wires. A much happier you will result.
Learn 4 top coaching tips that can help you succeed for personal and professional development with author-coach-trainer Phillip Mountrose’s help…. So turn up your speakers and…
How well do you coach yourself?
Whether you coach others or not, here are some core coaching concepts you can apply to yourself. They will help your relationships as well.
As you read these five tips, there are some thought-provoking questions to answer. To coach yourself, you’ll need focus and attention.
1. Master your self-talk.
Thousands of thoughts pass our mind-body each day. Most go unnoticed — which can be the problem. As you start to notice what you say to yourself, you might realize you can be unkind to yourself. (“I’m stupid/ugly/a loser,” etc.)
The idea is to find the good thoughts (the positive, encouraging and constructive) and emphasize those, while ignoring the negative chatter. The more you focus on the positive, the more those become dominating thoughts. Then you also keep adding good stuff from your life (resources and people).
In effect, tune out the negative and tune in to the positive channels.
So instead of saying, “I’m an idiot, not worth a damn,” how about, “I am smart, wonderful, resourceful — a winner!”
Doesn’t that sound better? That’s the way to treat yourself!
Watch your thoughts and, for best results, incorporate the rest of the tips.
2. Set goals.
You’ve heard that before. Do you have written goals?
Visualize your dream life: the things, income, people, travel, free time, and more… Above all, have a chief aim — a big goal that is believable and achievable.
Goals give you something to shoot for. They help you be a creator, and transcend victim thinking (see tip #1). If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up somewhere else.
3. Be in the moment.
Even though it’s wise to have longer-term goals, you live from moment to moment. That means you can only take your next step. It’s best to make the most of it and appreciate what’s happening today.
Interestingly, our hunter-gatherer ancestors had to be present just to eat and stay alive. For most of us, it’s not about surviving… but thriving. To live abundantly, it takes mindfully living in the present.
4. Follow through.
If you decide on something – say a goal – act on it right away. Tell yourself you are good for your word.
It can be a small action. Just take some action.
How often have you neglected to call someone back? How often have you “forgotten” to exercise?
Following your passion when starting is exciting. After the excitement leaves, though, following through takes character and discipline.
Not following through sets off a negative chain of events. Following through will set off a positive cycle.
If your goal is a new career like coaching, your immediate goal could be to research resources (coaching books or courses). If your goal is a romantic relationship, treat yourself like you want to be treated. Smile at yourself in the mirror, for example.
5. Be a connector. (bonus tip)
Now that you have the first four tips under way — positive self-talk, setting goals, being in the moment and following through — be aware of intentionally connecting with others.
Now that you are smiling at yourself, start smiling regularly at others, even strangers. Pay genuine compliments to people. Call people by their first name and ask how they are doing. Listen intently to what they say.
All of this can make a BIG difference in how others regard you and how you regard yourself. You will expand your connections, and a greater confidence will result.
Which of the 5 coaching tips has the most energy for you?… That’s a coaching question. Coaching is about asking questions so the truth can be discovered and good choices made.
Ultimately, coaching is staying connected. First you connect deeper with yourself, then that radiates out to everyone you meet.
You can do it!
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What’s one of the biggest secrets to success? Taking action is one of the big ones, and is often overlooked. It can be inspired action, deliberate acion or just your next logical step to move forward.
CAUTIOUS OR PASSIONATE?
The ends of the continuum for taking action is action and passion. My wife and partner Jane tends toward caution; I tend toward passion.
Caution can be good at evaluating, but the downside is to get too analytical, perfectionistic and mired in weighing all the possibilities.
Passion, on the other hand, acts on exciting desires. It can be impulsive, however. I can already be doing something, starting a project, before Jane has begun considering it.
We are a good balance for each other. I can spur her forward, she can reign in and prevent reckless actions.
NAPOLEON HILL’S DISCOVERY
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, assessed thousands of successful people. The common trait he found in successful people was decisiveness. They were quick to act and followed through on their decision.
So model yourself after successful people, regardless of whether you favor the cautious or passionate approach.
Have a sense of urgency without being driven or desperate. Be calm and deliberate. As Wallace Wattles advised in his classic The Science of Getting Rich “to act in a certain way.” He meant to think creatively and then act on those dreams in a calm way, without hurry or rush. Act confidently in other words.
MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE
When you act, you externalize your desires and dreams so they manifest in the world.
What then is your next step, your next action? Go for it.
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Why have an attractive personality? Well there are many reasons. Not just superficial ones. By being more magnetic, you can accomplish your aims and goals better. If you are attractive, you feel better about yourself.
We are not just talking about physical beauty, ala being a movie star good looks. Everyone can look his or her best.
So this piece is about how to shape yourself into a more attractive person, which leads to becoming a more successful person. Sound good?
Here are some don’t’s for having an attractive personality:
Instead of being a pleaser person, have a pleasing personality. This means you will design your life to be a more attractive and magnetic person, which will help you and others.
Do’s for developing an attractive personality:
In other words, become more aware of yourself and how you affect others. By developing these positive traits and eliminating the negative ones, your life will get so much better.
Go for it.
When people are near death what is their most common regret? It’s the regret that they didn’t take opportunities that presented themselves.
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me,” as caretaker Bronnie Ware observed.
So let’s take a deeper look at a certain gushing energy drain, one which most of us are not even aware of.
Here’s the good news: If you can fix this energy drain, your chances of success and making a contribution can skyrocket!
TOO MUCH “INNER CONSIDERING”
George Gurdjieff, the Armenian sage of the last century, called this limitation “inner considering.” By that he meant our habit of worrying what others may think.
Let’s put things in context. Trying to fit in is normal for teenagers. Being accepted by your peers is a developmental stage.
This trying to fit in doesn’t stop during our teens, however. Adults still spend much fruitless time trying to please others. As if lost in a maze, we are then subject to whatever we are guessing others are thinking or might say about us.
As you become aware of your thoughts, and your desire for a greater life strengthens, a certain truth emerges…
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A REVEALING STORY
Phillip once coached a lively woman who had a verbally abusive husband. The relationship came to a head when the husband issued 17 demands to her. In order to stay married to him, she must follow all of them.
In the next counseling session, Phillip figured this was the perfect opportunity for her to leave a difficult marriage, an easy way out.
When he asked her what she was going to do, she quickly replied, “Follow the demands. I could never get a divorce. This is a small community and what would people think if I got divorced?”[/contentbox]
TIME FOR “EXTERNAL CONSIDERING”
Gurdjieff recommended a remedy for inner considering. The solution? To externally consider.
This meant to genuinely serve others, not out of fear and obligation, but sincerely helping when you are guided to serve others.
From this inner-directed place, your service expresses your spirit and can bring out the spirit in others.
Another remedy for worrying about others is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).
“Even though I’m worrying what _____ will think, I can still follow my heart and love and accept myself.” Then start tapping…
BECOMING MORE SELF-AWARE
To be willing to dream may take some courage. You need to step out of the crowd and claim a better life for yourself.
Ironically, probably the best chance to genuinely help others is to follow your own bliss and purpose.
In other words, you no longer need to dwell on whatever you imagine others are thinking about you. Instead, just focus on following your higher purpose, which benefits you and others.
Yes, be aware of others. And above all, be self-aware of your own thoughts, feelings and actions. “To thine own self be true,” as Shakespeare advised.
Following this course will lead to a life of fulfillment, without those final regrets of having missed your calling.
Then your actions will more naturally flow from a loving place, regardless of what the neighbors might think.
You do want to have a greater, more meaningful life. This means having specific dreams and goals to guide you.
As holistic coaches, we want to share two master questions that will help you to achieve your all-important dreams.
YOU ARE A PATTERN RECOGNIZER
To understand why these two questions are so powerful, first a little neuroscience (brain science). Your brain has the astonishing capacity to recognize billions of patterns. If I say “cute, wagging tail,” it doesn’t take long to picture a dog.
We can complete countless pictures and sentences just by accessing this vast pattern-recognizing ability we have.
You can harness this vast storehouse of patterns at your fingertips to help you realize your dreams and goals.
The first question is, “What will happen if you don’t go for your dreams and goals?”
The second question is, “What will be it like if you do accomplish your dreams and goals?”
The first question elicits negative patterns, the second one elicits positive patterns. Both are equally important to ask, and work hand in hand.
Let’s give two quick examples on now this works on a dream or goal.
Example 1: Say your dream or goal is to have a business or career you love.
1st Question: “What will happen if you don’t go for a business/career you love?”
Possible answers will come pretty readily.
Such as… I’ll feel unsatisfied. I won’t amount to much compared to what I could have. I won’t be able to help myself and others in a meaningful and exciting way.
2nd Question: “What will it be like if you do find a business or career you love?”
Possible answers: I’ll feel fulfilled. I’ll help myself and others in exciting ways. I’ll be making a difference.
Example 2: You want to reach your ideal weight.
1st Question: “What will happen if you stay overweight?”
Possible answers: I’ll keep feeling tired. I’ll look and feel bad. It may lead to illness and disease. I’ll disappoint myself.
2nd Question: “What will be it like if you do attain your ideal weight?”
Possible answers: I’ll feel and look so much better. I will be healthier and inspire others. I’ll be freer to do and wear what I want.
USE THE CARROT & STICK
Use this carrot or stick approach with these two master questions. The stick is the first question about not going forward, and keeping the status quo. The carrot is the second question of imagining the good things that will come with attaining your dreams and goals.
An important note when you do this exercise: make sure to do the first “stick” question. People sometimes avoid that one (about not getting your goals) because it may bring us some momentary discomfort.
Why make sure to ask it? By harnessing your pattern recognition ability, you will get at a deeper level what will happen if you remain where you are.
By identifying negative consequences of staying where you are (unsatisfying job, sluggish body, etc.), you will get a clear picture. This sharper image will motivate you to go forward, especially after answering the second question.
Otherwise if you avoid the first stick question, you might not get over the hump. You are at risk of staying where you are and getting by with the status quo. In effect, it’s better to chase your dreams rather than run from your fears.
Do this powerful simple exercise as soon as possible. If you delay, your settle-for part can stay in control. Asking these two questions shows you something critical about yourself — your aliveness.
How alive are you with your dreams? How alive are you without your dreams? It’s a big difference.
So be brave and go for it. Ask these two master questions and you might be surprised at what you will learn. It’s time to accomplish your goals.
Fulfilling your dreams will be that much easier…. and life can be so much better!
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Why is it so important to feel good? We often don’t even feel when someone asks how we are feeling. Yet, surprisingly, it’s one of the most important things you can do: feel as good as you can, in each moment.
Why? Positive feelings raise your vibration. So they attract and create what you want. If you are more productive and creative that means you are helping yourself and others.
You can only feel better than you do now, which may not be great depending on your state. But you can always feel better.
The idea is to focus your thought to uplift your feelings. It’s a lifelong meditation. You must be mindful of how you think and the feelings generated.
Positivity Research from Barbara Frederickson and others have found the ratio of positive to negative expressions is key to positive outcomes. They found about 3 to 1 ratio is the tipping point. Below that not much affect may occur.
You can go higher than 3 to 1, but not so high that you become naive and ungrounded, where everything is positive. You must keep your discernment.
So teachers should have 3 positive comments to every 1 negative to students. For partnerships/marriages it’s been found that a high number of positives to negative expressions keeps relationships strong.
So in short, feel good now.
You might want to check out our upcoming telecourse on Manifestation. It’s part of our transformational Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification Telecourse, stating February 12. Click here to find out more about this life-changing training.
Some say the #1 fear is that of public speaking, greater than the fear of death. Perhaps the greatest fear, however, is the fear of selling.
Yet let’s examine why so many do get uncomfortable about selling — and why it’s so valuable to overcome this fear.
WHAT IS SELLING?
Selling ends by exchanging a product or service.
But there are many elements that go into selling. It’s also such a common experience, that we may not realize we are “selling” things ourselves daily, if only by persuading and recommending things to others.
Curiously, most are fine making a recommendation to a friend as long as they don’t benefit financially from the recommendation. However, someone else does benefit from wherever you’ve sent your friend with your recommendation.
Hmmm… something is going on here, something to do with money…. More on this in a moment.
If you send a friend to a movie, the theater and movie industry make the money. If you or someone recommends your product or service, you profit financially. If there is a fair exchange, or a good deal, everyone is happy.
Good selling involves these key things: communication and social skills. You need to communicate what you are recommending and develop a relationship with the other person. To cite and oft-heard phrase, people buy from those they know, like and trust.
Perhaps above all, you need to believe in what you are selling or recommending.
Sometimes people figure they are “not a salesman” type.
Daniel Pink in his book To Sell is Human, notes that the evidence shows most people are a combination of introverts and extroverts, rather than being the pure extrovert sales person type. And you don’t need to be a pure extrovert to sell or persuade people.
TAKING CARE OF YOUR BUSINESS
Even if you are a natural caretaker, you still need communication and social skills to succeed.
Whether you are persuading a child to eat healthily or encouraging a person to join your network, you need skills and determination to make your case. This does not mean you need to be a professional salesperson to develop these practical, valuable skills.
EFT TO THE RESCUE
So it sounds like to many it’s fine to recommend. It’s fine to share. But it’s not ok to make money from someone you know, regardless of the value you are offering them.
The Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you clear limitations around “selling” and money. Here are just a few affirmations to use:
“Even though I might get criticized or rejected if I make an offer, I can still love and accept myself.”
“Even though I distrust sales people, I can still get my message out and offer good value to others.”
“Even though I am not a natural sales person, I can still be paid well for my goods and services.”
“Even though I feel that I shouldn’t sell anything to someone I know, I can still love and accept myself.”
If you can’t sell to your friends, who can you sell to? That leaves strangers or enemies.
We hope we have shed some light on the often exaggerated fear of selling. It’s said that successful people do what others feel they are too good to do. Or are too afraid to do.
Don’t let fear stop you. You have too much to offer to let fear get in your way. Your dreams and goals of a better life are worth it.
Also if you would like to learn more about manifesting, which can include learning about money, selling and so much more check out our upcoming telecourse on “Manifesting Your Dreams,” part of our Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification. Next course starts February 12.