Is it nobler to sit, meditate and desire nothing? Should I detach from the world, sit like a yogi as the world passes me by like so many clouds coming and going?
Or… should I play full out, totally engage, really go for what I want, no holds barred?
Hmm… seems like a conflict. To attach or not, to desire or not, to engage or disengage.
Buddhist Eastern thought advises us to stop getting hung up on desires, which are but mirages in an impermanent world. Stop attaching to desires and you stop suffering.
Western philosophy tells us to work hard and create a productive life.
Further, the law of attraction suggests your desires are an outreach of source itself, wanting to explore and express itself through you.
SOLVING THE RIDDLEContinue reading
We were observing our dog Sunny Sunshine eagerly take one of his many playthings from his toy basket.
And it struck us: Sunny is very good at manifesting.
We are talking about dog training... in reverse. In this case, our dog is training us. And we think this has been instructive.
So here are 5 simple things our dog taught us about manifesting:
1) Focus on what you want.
If Sunny wants a bone, a walk or to play, his intention becomes known. He climbs on our lap and licks our face. Or he gives us that look ("Throw the ball so I can get it").
How do you make your intentions known? What do you think, say and do?Continue reading
We begin here with three powerful tips that you can start to use without having to set aside any extra time. There is no reason why you can’t begin right away.
In fact, you’re not likely to succeed if you delay. If you want to turn stress into happiness and success, this is a great place to start.
As you read these tips, think of the easiest changes you can make that will produce the best results. Also these tips are excerpted from our FREE ebook Down with Stress and Up with Love & Happiness.
Effort you exert to achieve or improve anything when you are feeling bad is a waste of time and energy. It simply won’t work. Stress can only create more stress, which means the key is in the turn around.
You can start to turn things around right now by recalling one of the happiest moments of your life and feeling now what you felt then. Describe it to yourself, maybe even aloud.
Recalling this time should make you feel good now. You may also notice that when you re-experience this happy moment, every cell in your body feels more alive!
To make the most of this idea, add some emotional intensity to your positive feelings. Get excited about feeling good. Continue to recall this happy moment and others like it often and watch a smile come over your face.
We can all learn from these words of wisdom from the French philosopher Michel Montaigne:
“A man is not hurt so much by what happens as by his opinion of what happens.”
Put yourself in the place of another impartial person and notice how different things look. You can increase your self-awareness and learn a lot about yourself this way.
You may also find it helpful to view situations through the eyes of a highly successful person you admire. Looking through the eyes of overcomers like Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra can give you a new perspective on any situation. How might they
respond to your situation? Would they whine and complain? Would they give up? You may notice that you can draw on their strength and feel better right away.
This is very practical, powerful, and in the long run essential to your success. Your natural state is well-being on all levels – body, emotions, mind and spirit. Resistance to what is reduces your well-being and causes stress.
The more you stop resisting what is, the better you feel and the more easily you can move in the direction of your dreams.
This reminds us of the life-changing Serenity Prayer:
“God grant me the serenity
to accept things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”
If this little prayer brightens your spirits as it does ours, write it down, post it where you can see it often, memorize it, and repeat it to yourself when you find yourself resisting what is. It will retrain your mind to respond in a positive way.
Go with the flow. This will reduce your day-to-day stress dramatically and life will become much more enjoyable.
And of course EFT tapping is a fantastic way to remove stress.
Actually, using tips like those above and the EFT Technique will take you beyond stress management, into the more desirable realms of love, happiness and success.
You don’t need to settle for stress and suffering.Want less stress and more happiness, love and success?
The above article is excerpted from our FREE ebook Down with Stress and Up with Love & Happiness.
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Drawing from Wallace Wattles’ The Science of Getting Rich and many years of experience and research, Phillip Mountrose shares 4 essential keys to consciously living your dreams.
Turn on your speakers and watch this 4-minute video…
Is your thinking right? Phillip Mountrose shows you how to increase your positive thinking by overcoming negative thoughts in this short video. He describes 3 “mental trip wires” that can throw you off.
Positive thinking is a good thing but what about all those negative thoughts you have?
You may want a better relationship or income, but are you focusing on the positive or the negative?
Here are three common “mental trip wires” that can set us off on the wrong track, sometimes surprisingly quickly, maybe without us even knowing it.
You may have heard the wise advice, “criticize the behavior, not the child.” A child yelling in public doesn’t mean the child is “bad.” There may be some adjusting involved, but that doesn’t invalidate the child’s self-worth.
So too with adults. When we label ourselves or others as being “bad’ or “stupid,” for example, that doesn’t do anything but make us feel lousy.
Try to improve and use feedback to your advantage, not as a measure of your value as a human being.
2. Focusing too much on the negative.
“That project is a failure.” “It never works out for me.” “It looks like it won’t happen for me, again.”
When we focus too much on the negative, we often fall prey to absolutist language — “it always fails;” “it never goes my way,” etc.
Get the feedback you need again, reset and move on.
The third trip wire goes off when we see ourselves as a victim. Fill in the blank: “I can’t succeed because of ________ [my family, my education, the government, etc.].
The idea is to realize things influence us yet we control our response and our thinking. The idea is to take as much responsibility for ourselves as we can.
Quantum physics tells us we are all connected, regardless of location. This “nonlocality” means we can switch our thoughts in an instant.We can use virtually anything to help us, rather than hinder us.
Of course EFT can help us change from negative to positive thinking, often quite quickly.
We can be aware of our thoughts and avoid these 3 mental trip wires. A much happier you will result.
Learn 4 top coaching tips that can help you succeed for personal and professional development with author-coach-trainer Phillip Mountrose’s help…. So turn up your speakers and…
How well do you coach yourself?
Whether you coach others or not, here are some core coaching concepts you can apply to yourself. They will help your relationships as well.
As you read these five tips, there are some thought-provoking questions to answer. To coach yourself, you’ll need focus and attention.
1. Master your self-talk.
Thousands of thoughts pass our mind-body each day. Most go unnoticed — which can be the problem. As you start to notice what you say to yourself, you might realize you can be unkind to yourself. (“I’m stupid/ugly/a loser,” etc.)
The idea is to find the good thoughts (the positive, encouraging and constructive) and emphasize those, while ignoring the negative chatter. The more you focus on the positive, the more those become dominating thoughts. Then you also keep adding good stuff from your life (resources and people).
In effect, tune out the negative and tune in to the positive channels.
So instead of saying, “I’m an idiot, not worth a damn,” how about, “I am smart, wonderful, resourceful — a winner!”
Doesn’t that sound better? That’s the way to treat yourself!
Watch your thoughts and, for best results, incorporate the rest of the tips.
2. Set goals.
You’ve heard that before. Do you have written goals?
Visualize your dream life: the things, income, people, travel, free time, and more… Above all, have a chief aim — a big goal that is believable and achievable.
Goals give you something to shoot for. They help you be a creator, and transcend victim thinking (see tip #1). If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up somewhere else.
3. Be in the moment.
Even though it’s wise to have longer-term goals, you live from moment to moment. That means you can only take your next step. It’s best to make the most of it and appreciate what’s happening today.
Interestingly, our hunter-gatherer ancestors had to be present just to eat and stay alive. For most of us, it’s not about surviving… but thriving. To live abundantly, it takes mindfully living in the present.
4. Follow through.
If you decide on something – say a goal – act on it right away. Tell yourself you are good for your word.
It can be a small action. Just take some action.
How often have you neglected to call someone back? How often have you “forgotten” to exercise?
Following your passion when starting is exciting. After the excitement leaves, though, following through takes character and discipline.
Not following through sets off a negative chain of events. Following through will set off a positive cycle.
If your goal is a new career like coaching, your immediate goal could be to research resources (coaching books or courses). If your goal is a romantic relationship, treat yourself like you want to be treated. Smile at yourself in the mirror, for example.
5. Be a connector. (bonus tip)
Now that you have the first four tips under way — positive self-talk, setting goals, being in the moment and following through — be aware of intentionally connecting with others.
Now that you are smiling at yourself, start smiling regularly at others, even strangers. Pay genuine compliments to people. Call people by their first name and ask how they are doing. Listen intently to what they say.
All of this can make a BIG difference in how others regard you and how you regard yourself. You will expand your connections, and a greater confidence will result.
Which of the 5 coaching tips has the most energy for you?… That’s a coaching question. Coaching is about asking questions so the truth can be discovered and good choices made.
Ultimately, coaching is staying connected. First you connect deeper with yourself, then that radiates out to everyone you meet.
You can do it!
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What’s one of the biggest secrets to success? Taking action is one of the big ones, and is often overlooked. It can be inspired action, deliberate acion or just your next logical step to move forward.
CAUTIOUS OR PASSIONATE?
The ends of the continuum for taking action is action and passion. My wife and partner Jane tends toward caution; I tend toward passion.
Caution can be good at evaluating, but the downside is to get too analytical, perfectionistic and mired in weighing all the possibilities.
Passion, on the other hand, acts on exciting desires. It can be impulsive, however. I can already be doing something, starting a project, before Jane has begun considering it.
We are a good balance for each other. I can spur her forward, she can reign in and prevent reckless actions.
NAPOLEON HILL’S DISCOVERY
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, assessed thousands of successful people. The common trait he found in successful people was decisiveness. They were quick to act and followed through on their decision.
So model yourself after successful people, regardless of whether you favor the cautious or passionate approach.
Have a sense of urgency without being driven or desperate. Be calm and deliberate. As Wallace Wattles advised in his classic The Science of Getting Rich “to act in a certain way.” He meant to think creatively and then act on those dreams in a calm way, without hurry or rush. Act confidently in other words.
MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE
When you act, you externalize your desires and dreams so they manifest in the world.
What then is your next step, your next action? Go for it.
If you’d like to go further with coaching and healing, we invite you to check our our Holistic Coaching with EFT Telecourse Certification, a hands-on, in depth program we’ve developed for 18 years.
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Why have an attractive personality? Well there are many reasons. Not just superficial ones. By being more magnetic, you can accomplish your aims and goals better. If you are attractive, you feel better about yourself.
We are not just talking about physical beauty, ala being a movie star good looks. Everyone can look his or her best.
So this piece is about how to shape yourself into a more attractive person, which leads to becoming a more successful person. Sound good?
Here are some don’t’s for having an attractive personality:
Instead of being a pleaser person, have a pleasing personality. This means you will design your life to be a more attractive and magnetic person, which will help you and others.
Do’s for developing an attractive personality:
In other words, become more aware of yourself and how you affect others. By developing these positive traits and eliminating the negative ones, your life will get so much better.
Go for it.
You do want to have a greater, more meaningful life. This means having specific dreams and goals to guide you.
As holistic coaches, we want to share two master questions that will help you to achieve your all-important dreams.
YOU ARE A PATTERN RECOGNIZER
To understand why these two questions are so powerful, first a little neuroscience (brain science). Your brain has the astonishing capacity to recognize billions of patterns. If I say “cute, wagging tail,” it doesn’t take long to picture a dog.
We can complete countless pictures and sentences just by accessing this vast pattern-recognizing ability we have.
You can harness this vast storehouse of patterns at your fingertips to help you realize your dreams and goals.
The first question is, “What will happen if you don’t go for your dreams and goals?”
The second question is, “What will be it like if you do accomplish your dreams and goals?”
The first question elicits negative patterns, the second one elicits positive patterns. Both are equally important to ask, and work hand in hand.
Let’s give two quick examples on now this works on a dream or goal.
Example 1: Say your dream or goal is to have a business or career you love.
1st Question: “What will happen if you don’t go for a business/career you love?”
Possible answers will come pretty readily.
Such as… I’ll feel unsatisfied. I won’t amount to much compared to what I could have. I won’t be able to help myself and others in a meaningful and exciting way.
2nd Question: “What will it be like if you do find a business or career you love?”
Possible answers: I’ll feel fulfilled. I’ll help myself and others in exciting ways. I’ll be making a difference.
Example 2: You want to reach your ideal weight.
1st Question: “What will happen if you stay overweight?”
Possible answers: I’ll keep feeling tired. I’ll look and feel bad. It may lead to illness and disease. I’ll disappoint myself.
2nd Question: “What will be it like if you do attain your ideal weight?”
Possible answers: I’ll feel and look so much better. I will be healthier and inspire others. I’ll be freer to do and wear what I want.
USE THE CARROT & STICK
Use this carrot or stick approach with these two master questions. The stick is the first question about not going forward, and keeping the status quo. The carrot is the second question of imagining the good things that will come with attaining your dreams and goals.
An important note when you do this exercise: make sure to do the first “stick” question. People sometimes avoid that one (about not getting your goals) because it may bring us some momentary discomfort.
Why make sure to ask it? By harnessing your pattern recognition ability, you will get at a deeper level what will happen if you remain where you are.
By identifying negative consequences of staying where you are (unsatisfying job, sluggish body, etc.), you will get a clear picture. This sharper image will motivate you to go forward, especially after answering the second question.
Otherwise if you avoid the first stick question, you might not get over the hump. You are at risk of staying where you are and getting by with the status quo. In effect, it’s better to chase your dreams rather than run from your fears.
Do this powerful simple exercise as soon as possible. If you delay, your settle-for part can stay in control. Asking these two questions shows you something critical about yourself — your aliveness.
How alive are you with your dreams? How alive are you without your dreams? It’s a big difference.
So be brave and go for it. Ask these two master questions and you might be surprised at what you will learn. It’s time to accomplish your goals.
Fulfilling your dreams will be that much easier…. and life can be so much better!
Turn on your speakers to watch the video below.
Why is it so important to feel good? We often don’t even feel when someone asks how we are feeling. Yet, surprisingly, it’s one of the most important things you can do: feel as good as you can, in each moment.
Why? Positive feelings raise your vibration. So they attract and create what you want. If you are more productive and creative that means you are helping yourself and others.
You can only feel better than you do now, which may not be great depending on your state. But you can always feel better.
The idea is to focus your thought to uplift your feelings. It’s a lifelong meditation. You must be mindful of how you think and the feelings generated.
Positivity Research from Barbara Frederickson and others have found the ratio of positive to negative expressions is key to positive outcomes. They found about 3 to 1 ratio is the tipping point. Below that not much affect may occur.
You can go higher than 3 to 1, but not so high that you become naive and ungrounded, where everything is positive. You must keep your discernment.
So teachers should have 3 positive comments to every 1 negative to students. For partnerships/marriages it’s been found that a high number of positives to negative expressions keeps relationships strong.
So in short, feel good now.
You might want to check out our upcoming telecourse on Manifestation. It’s part of our transformational Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification Telecourse, stating February 12. Click here to find out more about this life-changing training.