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Beyond Stress Management: More Happiness, Love and Success

arches-shrunkStress can be go from having a low-quality life to creating disease and more. How do you manage stress? Even more, how do you go from stress to love, happiness and success?

We begin here with three powerful tips that you can start to use without having to set aside any extra time. There is no reason why you can’t begin right away.

In fact, you’re not likely to succeed if you delay. If you want to turn stress into happiness and success, this is a great place to start.

As you read these tips,  think of the easiest changes you can make that will produce the best results. Also these tips are excerpted from our FREE ebook Down with Stress and Up with Love & Happiness.

1. Make feeling good (happiness) your primary focus and enjoy each day.

Effort you exert to achieve or improve anything when you are feeling bad is a waste of time and energy. It simply won’t work. Stress can only create more stress, which means the key is in the turn around.

You can start to turn things around right now by recalling one of the happiest moments of your life and feeling now what you felt then. Describe it to yourself, maybe even aloud.

Recalling this time should make you feel good now. You may also notice that when you re-experience this happy moment, every cell in your body feels more alive!

To make the most of this idea, add some emotional intensity to your positive feelings. Get excited about feeling good. Continue to recall this happy moment and others like it often and watch a smile come over your face.

2. Look at things more objectively, like an impartial observer or detective.

We can all learn from these words of wisdom from the French philosopher Michel Montaigne:

“A man is not hurt so much by what happens as by his opinion of what happens.”

Put yourself in the place of another impartial person and notice how different things look. You can increase your self-awareness and learn a lot about yourself this way.

You may also find it helpful to view situations through the eyes of a highly successful person you admire. Looking through the eyes of overcomers like Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra can give you a new perspective on any situation. How might they

respond to your situation? Would they whine and complain? Would they give up? You may notice that you can draw on their strength and feel better right away.

3. Go with the flow and cooperate with the things you can’t change.

This is very practical, powerful, and in the long run essential to your success. Your natural state is well-being on all levels – body, emotions, mind and spirit. Resistance to what is reduces your well-being and causes stress.

The more you stop resisting what is, the better you feel and the more easily you can move in the direction of your dreams.

This reminds us of the life-changing Serenity Prayer:

“God grant me the serenity
to accept things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”

If this little prayer brightens your spirits as it does ours, write it down, post it where you can see it often, memorize it, and repeat it to yourself when you find yourself resisting what is. It will retrain your mind to respond in a positive way.

Go with the flow. This will reduce your day-to-day stress dramatically and life will become much more enjoyable.

And of course EFT tapping is a fantastic way to remove stress.

Actually, using tips like those above and the EFT Technique will take you beyond stress management, into the more desirable realms of love, happiness and success.

FROM “HOW?” TO “WOW!”

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You don’t need to settle for stress and suffering.Want less stress and more happiness, love and success?

The above article is excerpted from our FREE ebook Down with Stress and Up with Love & Happiness.

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Success Secrets: Taking Action

Phillip Mountrose shows how taking action can be a success secret, so obvious it might be overlooked.
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What’s one of the biggest secrets to success? Taking action is one of the big ones, and is often overlooked. It can be inspired action, deliberate acion or just your next logical step to move forward.

CAUTIOUS OR PASSIONATE?

The ends of the continuum for taking action is action and passion. My wife and partner Jane tends toward caution; I tend toward passion.

Caution can be good at evaluating, but the downside is to get too analytical, perfectionistic and mired in weighing all the possibilities.

Passion, on the other hand, acts on exciting desires. It can be impulsive, however. I can already be doing something, starting a project, before Jane has begun considering it.

We are a good balance for each other.  I can spur her forward, she can reign in and prevent reckless actions.

NAPOLEON HILL’S DISCOVERY

Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, assessed thousands of successful people.  The common trait he found in successful people was decisiveness. They were quick to act and followed through on their decision.

So model yourself after successful people, regardless of whether you favor the cautious or passionate approach.

Have a sense of urgency without being driven or desperate. Be calm and deliberate. As Wallace Wattles advised in his classic The Science of Getting Rich “to act in a certain way.” He meant to think creatively and then act on those dreams in a calm way, without hurry or rush. Act confidently in other words.

MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE

When you act, you externalize your desires and dreams so they manifest in the world.

What then is your next step, your next action? Go for it.

GOING FURTHER

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If you’d like to go further with coaching and healing, we invite you to check our our Holistic Coaching with EFT Telecourse Certification, a hands-on, in depth program we’ve developed for 18 years.

Click here to find out more about this transformational program that starts soon.

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How to Have an Attractive Personality and Be a Successful Person

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Why have an attractive personality? Well there are many reasons. Not just superficial ones. By being more magnetic, you can accomplish your aims and goals better. If you are attractive, you feel better about yourself.

We are not just talking about physical beauty, ala being a movie star good looks. Everyone can look his or her best.

So this piece is about how to shape yourself into a more attractive person, which leads to becoming a more successful person. Sound good?

Here are some don’t’s for having an attractive personality:

  • in general, avoid being a pleaser
  • trying too hard to fit in and maintain the status quo
  • fear criticism
  • fear rejection

Instead of being a pleaser person, have a pleasing personality. This means you will design your life to be a more attractive and magnetic person, which will help you and others.

Do’s for developing an attractive personality:

  • serve others
  • be genuinely interested in others, rather than trying to be interesting yourself
  • smile and laugh: it stimulates positive hormones
  • appear attractive to create a good impression, including dressing well and having good grooming

In other words, become more aware of yourself and how you affect others. By developing these positive traits and eliminating the negative ones, your life will get so much better.

Go for it.

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The Biggest Energy Drain?

When people are near death what is their most common regret? It’s the regret that they didn’t take opportunities that presented themselves.

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me,” as caretaker Bronnie Ware observed.

This begins to uncover a mystery: why are so many people without a dream or goal? And further, for those who do have direction, why do they fall short of accomplishing their heart’s desires?

So let’s take a deeper look at a certain gushing energy drain, one which most of us are not even aware of.

Here’s the good news: If you can fix this energy drain, your chances of success and making a contribution can skyrocket!

TOO MUCH “INNER CONSIDERING”

George Gurdjieff, the Armenian sage of the last century, called this limitation “inner considering.” By that he meant our habit of worrying what others may think.

Let’s put things in context. Trying to fit in is normal for teenagers. Being accepted by your peers is a developmental stage.

This trying to fit in doesn’t stop during our teens, however. Adults still spend much fruitless time trying to please others. As if lost in a maze, we are then subject to whatever we are guessing others are thinking or might say about us.

As you become aware of your thoughts, and your desire for a greater life strengthens, a certain truth emerges…

You can’t inner consider others and follow your own guidance. Try to please everyone and just about no one will be satisfied. You’ll lose respect from others and yourself.

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A REVEALING STORY

Phillip once coached a lively woman who had a verbally abusive husband. The relationship came to a head when the husband issued 17 demands to her. In order to stay married to him, she must follow all of them.

In the next counseling session, Phillip figured this was the perfect opportunity for her to leave a difficult marriage, an easy way out.

When he asked her what she was going to do, she quickly replied, “Follow the demands. I could never get a divorce. This is a small community and what would people think if I got divorced?”

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TIME FOR “EXTERNAL CONSIDERING”

Gurdjieff recommended a remedy for inner considering. The solution? To externally consider.

This meant to genuinely serve others, not out of fear and obligation, but sincerely helping when you are guided to serve others.

From this inner-directed place, your service expresses your spirit and can bring out the spirit in others.

ANOTHER REMEDY

Another remedy for worrying about others is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).

“Even though I’m worrying what _____ will think, I can still follow my heart and love and accept myself.” Then start tapping…

BECOMING MORE SELF-AWARE

To be willing to dream may take some courage. You need to step out of the crowd and claim a better life for yourself.

Ironically, probably the best chance to genuinely help others is to follow your own bliss and purpose.

In other words, you no longer need to dwell on whatever you imagine others are thinking about you. Instead, just focus on following your higher purpose, which benefits you and others.

Yes, be aware of others. And above all, be self-aware of your own thoughts, feelings and actions. “To thine own self be true,” as Shakespeare advised.

Following this course will lead to a life of fulfillment, without those final regrets of having missed your calling.

Then your actions will more naturally flow from a loving place, regardless of what the neighbors might think.

 

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How to Feel Good Now (Law of Attraction Tips)

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Why is it so important to feel good? We often don’t even feel when someone asks how we are feeling. Yet, surprisingly, it’s one of the most important things you can do: feel as good as you can, in each moment.

Why? Positive feelings raise your vibration. So they attract and create what you want. If you are more productive and creative that means you are helping yourself and others.

You can only feel better than you do now, which may not be great depending on your state. But you can always feel better.

The idea is to focus your thought to uplift your feelings. It’s a lifelong meditation. You must be mindful of how you think and the feelings generated.

POSITIVITY

Positivity Research from Barbara Frederickson and others have found the ratio of positive to negative expressions is key to positive outcomes.  They found about 3 to 1 ratio is the tipping point. Below that not much affect may occur.

You can go higher than 3 to 1, but not so high that you become naive and ungrounded, where everything is positive. You must keep your discernment.

So teachers should have 3 positive comments to every 1 negative to students. For partnerships/marriages it’s been found that a high number of positives to negative expressions keeps relationships strong.

So in short, feel good now.


Feeling good is part of manifesting.

You might want to check out our upcoming telecourse on Manifestation. It’s part of our transformational Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification Telecourse, stating February 12. Click here to find out more about this life-changing training.

 

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Is this the #1 Fear?

Some say the #1 fear is that of public speaking, greater than the fear of death. Perhaps the greatest fear, however, is the fear of selling.

Of course, this does not mean everyone suffers from any of these fears. Many are fine with public speaking, death and selling.

Yet let’s examine why so many do get uncomfortable about selling — and why it’s so valuable to overcome this fear.

WHAT IS SELLING?

Selling ends by exchanging a product or service.

But there are many elements that go into selling. It’s also such a common experience, that we may not realize we are “selling” things ourselves daily, if only by persuading and recommending things to others.

Curiously, most are fine making a recommendation to a friend as long as they don’t benefit financially from the recommendation. However, someone else does benefit from wherever you’ve sent your friend with your recommendation.

Hmmm… something is going on here, something to do with money…. More on this in a moment.

If you send a friend to a movie, the theater and movie industry make the money. If you or someone recommends your product or service, you profit financially. If there is a fair exchange, or a good deal, everyone is happy.

SELLING SKILLSETS

Good selling involves these key things: communication and social skills. You need to communicate what you are recommending and develop a relationship with the other person. To cite and oft-heard phrase, people buy from those they know, like and trust.

Perhaps above all, you need to believe in what you are selling or recommending.

SALESMAN TYPES?

Sometimes people figure they are “not a salesman” type.

Daniel Pink in his book To Sell is Human, notes that the evidence shows most people are a combination of introverts and extroverts, rather than being the pure extrovert sales person type. And you don’t need to be a pure extrovert to sell or persuade people.

TAKING CARE OF YOUR BUSINESS

Even if you are a natural caretaker, you still need communication and social skills to succeed.

Whether you are persuading a child to eat healthily or encouraging a person to join your network, you need skills and determination to make your case. This does not mean you need to be a professional salesperson to develop these practical, valuable skills.

EFT TO THE RESCUE

So it sounds like to many it’s fine to recommend. It’s fine to share. But it’s not ok to make money from someone you know, regardless of the value you are offering them.

The Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you clear limitations around “selling” and money. Here are just a few affirmations to use:

“Even though I might get criticized or rejected if I make an offer, I can still love and accept myself.”

“Even though I distrust sales people, I can still get my message out and offer good value to others.”

“Even though I am not a natural sales person, I can still be paid well for my goods and services.”

“Even though I feel that I shouldn’t sell anything to someone I know, I can still love and accept myself.”

 If you can’t sell to your friends, who can you sell to? That leaves strangers or enemies.

BOTTOM LINE

We hope we have shed some light on the often exaggerated fear of selling. It’s said that successful people do what others feel they are too good to do. Or are too afraid to do.

Don’t let fear stop you. You have too much to offer to let fear get in your way. Your dreams and goals of a better life are worth it.

Also if you would like to learn more about manifesting, which can include learning about money, selling and so much more check out our upcoming telecourse on “Manifesting Your Dreams,” part of our Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification. Next course starts February 12.

 

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Want to Become a Holistic Coach?

Have you ever considered becoming a holistic coach?

What if you could profoundly and powerfully help yourself and others, using coaching and breakthrough modalities like EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and hypnotherapy?

Authors and coaches for the past 20 years, we (Phillip and Jane Mountrose) have trained 100’s of people through our specialized, hands-on programs — like the upcoming Manifesting Your Dreams Telecourse.

It’s part of our unique Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification Telecourse — it starts February 12, 2013.

All you need is a telephone to take the weekly classes — plus they are all recorded if you miss any or want to review them.

To give you details and samples of what our course is like, we invite you to…

WHAT: Want to Be a Holistic Coach with EFT
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WHEN: Wednesday, January 30th, 6pm PT/9pm ET
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“I wanted to share that I have done most everything Jane and Phillip taught me last year when ‘I felt like my soul was dying’ as Jane puts it — and it has helped immensely! Feel free to put that on your site and in your emails. I will gladly talk to anyone that is still on the fence and tell them that you are the real deal and get results.”
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Enroll above now for this teleclass about a life-changing Holistic Coaching and EFT Certification telecourse.

This upcoming telecourse is not only the best in hands-on tools and knowledge about Holistic Coaching and EFT. It’s a deep personal, transformational journey as 100’s of people like Dr. Steve above can attest. The telecourse certification program starts again February 12, 2013.

 

 

 

PS, There are a few times in your life that rare opportunities come your way. If you take them, magical, wonderful things can happen to you. This teleclass may open one of those doorways for you.

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Holistic Coaching & Making the Law of Attraction Work for You — Teleclass

Is the law of attraction working for you or against you?

The law of attraction is always working, and what shows up in your life is a reflection of how you are thinking. It’s wise to learn as much as you can, in a hands-on way, to create the life you want.

Whether you are coaching yourself or others, you need to know exactly how to get the law of attraction to work for you.

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In this Free 70 minute Teleclass, we will show you…

  • 5 mistakes people often make that causes the law of attraction work against them
  • 5 Specific ways to get the law of attraction to work for you on a regular basis
  • How to use the EFT tapping technique and our signature Miracle Reframe to achieve sometimes astonishing results
  • How to use holistic coaching to help yourself and others
  • and more…

 

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WHEN: Wednesday, January 16th, 6pm PT/9pm ET
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What is the Golden Rule?

How do the law of attraction and Golden Rule relate?

What is the Golden Rule?

Throughout history, major religions as well as great thinkers have put forward this key idea:

Christianity: “Whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them.”

Islam: “No one of you is a believer until he loves for his neighbor what he loves for himself.”

Judaism: “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow man.”

Buddhism: “Hurt not others with that which pains yourself.”

The Golden Rule is about respecting others. Ultimately, this starts with respecting ourselves. If we are compassionate and caring about ourselves, we can naturally extend that concern to others.

The Law of Attraction

Napoleon Hill, the author of The Laws of Success and Think and Grow Rich, equated the Golden Rule with the law of attraction. In effect, your thoughts and actions get sent back to you.

If you follow the Golden Rule of being kind and considerate to others, others will do the same to you. If you are unfair to others, don’t be surprised if others are resentful and shortchange you.

2 Ways to have the Golden Rule work for you

As Phillip notes in the above video, there are 2 ways to live by the golden rule more easily.

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  • Inclusive thinking.
    Be aware of others when you think and before you act. Even if you disagree with them, be courteous and open to hearing different viewpoints. By living and let living, you create respect and harmony.
  • Use EFT to clear internal blocks.
    The Emotional Freedom tapping techniques (EFT) are often a quick and easy way to address your discomfort with others.

    By tapping on key pressure points while saying an affirmation (like “Even though I think he’s wrong, I can accept myself and others anyway”), you can move on, live your life and live better with others. Some of the conflicts and charge will naturally disappear.

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The golden rule is a wonderful example of the law of attraction. It helps you become aware and self-aware… to help the world be a better place for us all.

 

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