Do you enjoy selling? Well some people do. Many others, particularly holistically minded people, find selling doesn’t come naturally to them. They may have many negative associations about selling. They may even have a strong fear of selling (selling out?).
Yet what’s most important here, looking at the big picture, it becomes apparent that selling is part of the spiritual journey to wholeness. Thus it’s good to face any fears or contradictions around this area of our lives.
Part of the confusion with selling is that it has two definitions. One has to do with persuading people, the other has to do with transferring goods or services in exchange for money. Each can present challenges, especially when money is involved.
How do you gain mastery? The definition of mastery is “comprehensive knowledge or skill in a subject or accomplishment.” What’s more, how do you master life’s mystery and energies?
In this article, we will first explore gaining mastery of a particular subject – then expand to discussing how to gain mastery of your life as a whole.
Examples of masters are Shin Lim the magician who recently won America’s Got Talent, Roger Federer or Serena Williams in tennis, or Izhak Perlman for his violin ability. To master something, you must put together certain elements, then you will not only begin to act like a master, but live with mastery in that realm.
First, a suggestion: Don’t sell yourself short on becoming masterful. Before we get specific in our examination of mastery, let’s say one need not rise to the very best artist or athlete on earth to gain mastery.
There’s no requirement to be part of an exclusive group of superhumans to become masterful. Mastery is open to virtually anyone who is willing to follow a certain path that leads to advanced accomplishment in a certain area.
One consideration to understanding mastery is that sometimes there are external measurable standards to guide you, like speed or wins or skill level. Then there are internals that are harder to measure, which come from the unique expression and life experience of each person.
Let’s look at the four key components to help one gain mastery.
Do your partner’s eyes glaze over when you talk about spirituality? Can you freely share your interests with them on holistic subjects (intuition, spiritual growth, the big picture, connectedness and more)? Is your partner even interested in such areas?
We are talking here about a spiritual connection and spiritual intimacy, one many people, even in partnership already, long to have.
By spirituality, we mean interest in self-actualization and self-transcendence, including evolving to be the best version of yourself, united with the universe and oneness. It includes both elevating your awareness and seeing things from a larger and larger perspective.
For women in particular, it can be a serious concern when their partner doesn’t really care about such matters. Women seem to be naturally drawn to the intuitive, relationship side of life. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more logical and action oriented, even though there are many exceptions for both sexes.
Why Won’t He Join Me?
So for many people, they are frustrated with their partner’s disinterest in spiritual matters.
We sometimes help people get through this tough challenge. The difficulty often revolves around:
Your spiritual evolution and and spiritual hygiene are directly connected.
Let’s clarify some terms and figure how it all connects… We know that personal hygiene refers to being physically clean and presentable. In general, such hygiene maintains ourselves, keeping us fresh and socially acceptable to others.
On another level, we can develop spiritual hygiene. By that we mean how you keep yourself relatively clean (without being a fanatic about it) on ALL levels: physically, emotionally and mentally, which synthesizes spiritual hygiene.
Note: Spiritual hygiene is not about moral purity or following some strict external code. Such rigid behavior and inflexible approach leads to problems such as being judgmental, as we will discuss.
Here are four important ways to keep your spiritual hygiene up, for greater integrity, living fully and spiritual evolution:
Have you ever thought you might be too judgmental? Before answering, let’s figure out what it means to be judgmental in the first place.
To live fully you need to become wise, which includes being selective. Yet many of us shut down developing our ability to discern in fear that we might become too judgmental. Ironically, criticizing ourselves for evaluating things just stokes our inner critic more.
As a result, on the one side, we may become timid and stuck. On the other side, we may become harshly critical. In either case, we are falling victim to becoming judgmental, whether too meek or too critical.
In other words, you can become a mute or a loud boor.
So you can see that there is much confusion about being judgmental, which we hope to clarify in this article.
Sometimes people mistake evaluating for being judgmental.
Do you feel your life is basically in control or out of control? And how much control do you actually have over your life?
These are essential questions. And to respond intelligently, one needs to take into account some important considerations, which we will now examine.
Here are some areas that you can control, at least to a certain extent. You can say that you are in control of your…
Such control means you have a realistic sense of what’s involved with the area. You also feel good relating positively to the particular area (with your health, time, energy, etc.).
Some people veer toward being too lax, without boundaries or attention. This lack of awareness can lead to negligence and destruction.
Success coaches say confidence is one of the most important keys to success. This makes sense when you think about it. So, too, does the value of doing what it takes to build more confidence and self-esteem. The confidence tips you’ll find here can light up your life with a rainbow of colors.
It’s unfortunate that confidence skills aren’t taught in school. The result: to create the life you deeply desire, you have to do it yourself. Fortunately you can light up your life by boosting your confidence and self-esteem, if you put your mind to it.
Low confidence and self-esteem can be pretty debilitating. No rainbow there…
This subject is particularly important with the rise in Alzheimer’s disease cases. With more people being affected, there is an urgent need to fortify the brain. Alzheimer’s and other kinds of dementia incubate for a long time. It can take many years to develop, so this is a good time to bolster your mind, and by extension, your brain.
What’s more, we want to go beyond just preserving our mind. We want to keep it as fresh and energized as possible.
We are referring to “mind” as your consciousness that directly influences your physical body and brain.
* In turn, the body and mind are influenced by the environment.
* Also the brain, like the body, is material; the mind is immaterial.
To get clues about a healthy mind, let’s consider characteristics of a healthy body. Since the body is physical, it’s easier to see what makes it work well.
Other points here…
Most people at first are drawn to the outer trappings of success: wealth, possessions, status, things. This can be useful, necessary and fun. But it is limited if it eventually it doesn’t connect to what those outer manifestations point to: the underlying energies of success.
In other words, at a certain point success needs to be connected to deeper things, more inward development than outward accomplishment. Namely, a deeper sense of security, meaning, purpose, fulfillment and contribution. This inner shift first takes awareness, then some time, some effort and focus.
There couldn’t be a better time for self-help and self-improvement. With so many resources online, there are more opportunities than you can possibly take. The key is to be on the leading edge, where you’ll find the fastest, easiest and most enjoyable possibilities.
We’ve been there ourselves, seeking solutions to the kinds of problems so many people face – limited time, limited resources, too much hurry and worry, confusion, stress, etc., etc. Our lives weren’t working and none of the conventional approaches seemed to be very effective.
Our search for better lives took us to the leading edge of personal and spiritual development. That’s where we found the most powerfully effective ways to create the lives we desired, the lives we were born to life.
Maybe you feel the same way…