Stress can go from having a low-quality life to creating disease and more. How do you manage stress? Even more, how do you go from stress to love, happiness and success?
We begin here with three powerful tips that you can start to use without having to set aside any extra time. There is no reason why you can’t begin right away. In fact, you’re not likely to succeed if you delay. If you want to turn stress into happiness and success, this is a great place to start.
As you read these tips, think of the easiest changes you can make that will produce the best results. Also these tips are excerpted from our FREE Special Report 10 Powerful Doses of Love & Happiness.
1. Make feeling good (happiness) your primary focus and enjoy each day.
Effort you exert to achieve or improve anything when you are feeling bad is a waste of time and energy. It simply won’t work. Stress can only create more stress, which means the key is in the turn around.
You can start to turn things around right now by recalling one of the happiest moments of your life and feeling now what you felt then. Describe it to yourself, maybe even aloud. Recalling this time should make you feel good now. You may also notice that when you re-experience this happy moment, every cell in your body feels more alive!
To make the most of this idea, add some emotional intensity to your positive feelings. Get excited about feeling good. Continue to recall this happy moment and others like it often and watch a smile come over your face.
2. Look at things more objectively, like an impartial observer or detective.
We can all learn from these words of wisdom from the French philosopher Michel Montaigne:
“A man is not hurt so much by what happens as by his opinion of what happens.”
Put yourself in the place of another impartial person and notice how different things look. You can increase your self-awareness and learn a lot about yourself this way.
You may also find it helpful to view situations through the eyes of a highly successful person you admire. Looking through the eyes of overcomers like Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra can give you a new perspective on any situation. How might they respond to your situation? Would they whine and complain? Would they give up? You may notice that you can draw on their strength and feel better right away.
3. Go with the flow and cooperate with the things you can’t change.
This is very practical, powerful, and in the long run essential to your success. Your natural state is well-being on all levels – body, emotions, mind and spirit. Resistance to what is reduces your well-being and causes stress. The more you stop resisting what is, the better you feel and the more easily you can move in the direction of your dreams.
This reminds us of the life-changing Serenity Prayer:
“God grant me the serenity
to accept things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”
If this little prayer brightens your spirits as it does ours, write it down, post it where you can see it often, memorize it, and repeat it to yourself when you find yourself resisting what is. It will retrain your mind to respond in a positive way.
Go with the flow. This will reduce your day-to-day stress dramatically and life will become much more enjoyable.
And of course EFT tapping is a fantastic way to remove stress.
Actually, using tips like those above and the EFT Technique will take you beyond stress management, into the more desirable realms of love, happiness and success.
FROM “HOW?” TO “WOW!”
You don’t need to settle for stress and suffering.Want less stress and more happiness, love and success?
Find out more in our FREE Special Report “10 Powerful Doses of Love & Happiness.”
Is your thinking right? Phillip Mountrose shows you how to increase your positive thinking by overcoming negative thoughts in this short video. He describes 3 “mental trip wires” that can throw you off.
Turn up your speakers and
Positive thinking is a good thing but what about all those negative thoughts you have?
You may want a better relationship or income, but are you focusing on the positive or the negative?
Here are three common “mental trip wires” that can set us off on the wrong track, sometimes surprisingly quickly, maybe without us even knowing it.
You may have heard the wise advice, “criticize the behavior, not the child.” A child yelling in public doesn’t mean the child is “bad.” There may be some adjusting involved, but that doesn’t invalidate the child’s self-worth.
So too with adults. When we label ourselves or others as being “bad’ or “stupid,” for example, that doesn’t do anything but make us feel lousy.
Try to improve and use feedback to your advantage, not as a measure of your value as a human being.
2. Focusing too much on the negative.
“That project is a failure.” “It never works out for me.” “It looks like it won’t happen for me, again.”
When we focus too much on the negative, we often fall prey to absolutist language — “it always fails;” “it never goes my way,” etc.
Get the feedback you need again, reset and move on.
The third trip wire goes off when we see ourselves as a victim. Fill in the blank: “I can’t succeed because of ________ [my family, my education, the government, etc.].
The idea is to realize things influence us yet we control our response and our thinking. The idea is to take as much responsibility for ourselves as we can.
Quantum physics tells us we are all connected, regardless of location. This “nonlocality” means we can switch our thoughts in an instant.We can use virtually anything to help us, rather than hinder us.
Learn 4 top coaching tips that can help you succeed for personal and professional development with author-coach-trainer Phillip Mountrose’s help…. So turn up your speakers and…
How well do you coach yourself?
Whether you coach others or not, here are some core coaching concepts you can apply to yourself. They will help your relationships as well.
As you read these five tips, there are some thought-provoking questions to answer. To coach yourself, you’ll need focus and attention.
1. Master your self-talk.
Thousands of thoughts pass our mind-body each day. Most go unnoticed — which can be the problem. As you start to notice what you say to yourself, you might realize you can be unkind to yourself. (“I’m stupid/ugly/a loser,” etc.)
The idea is to find the good thoughts (the positive, encouraging and constructive) and emphasize those, while ignoring the negative chatter. The more you focus on the positive, the more those become dominating thoughts. Then you also keep adding good stuff from your life (resources and people).
In effect, tune out the negative and tune in to the positive channels.
So instead of saying, “I’m an idiot, not worth a damn,” how about, “I am smart, wonderful, resourceful — a winner!”
Doesn’t that sound better? That’s the way to treat yourself!
Watch your thoughts and, for best results, incorporate the rest of the tips.
2. Set goals.
You’ve heard that before. Do you have written goals?
Visualize your dream life: the things, income, people, travel, free time, and more… Above all, have a chief aim — a big goal that is believable and achievable.
Goals give you something to shoot for. They help you be a creator, and transcend victim thinking (see tip #1). If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up somewhere else.
3. Be in the moment.
Even though it’s wise to have longer-term goals, you live from moment to moment. That means you can only take your next step. It’s best to make the most of it and appreciate what’s happening today.
Interestingly, our hunter-gatherer ancestors had to be present just to eat and stay alive. For most of us, it’s not about surviving… but thriving. To live abundantly, it takes mindfully living in the present.
4. Follow through.
If you decide on something – say a goal – act on it right away. Tell yourself you are good for your word.
It can be a small action. Just take some action.
How often have you neglected to call someone back? How often have you “forgotten” to exercise?
Following your passion when starting is exciting. After the excitement leaves, though, following through takes character and discipline.
Not following through sets off a negative chain of events. Following through will set off a positive cycle.
If your goal is a new career like coaching, your immediate goal could be to research resources (coaching books or courses). If your goal is a romantic relationship, treat yourself like you want to be treated. Smile at yourself in the mirror, for example.
5. Be a connector. (bonus tip)
Now that you have the first four tips under way — positive self-talk, setting goals, being in the moment and following through — be aware of intentionally connecting with others.
Now that you are smiling at yourself, start smiling regularly at others, even strangers. Pay genuine compliments to people. Call people by their first name and ask how they are doing. Listen intently to what they say.
All of this can make a BIG difference in how others regard you and how you regard yourself. You will expand your connections, and a greater confidence will result.
Which of the 5 coaching tips has the most energy for you?… That’s a coaching question. Coaching is about asking questions so the truth can be discovered and good choices made.
Ultimately, coaching is staying connected. First you connect deeper with yourself, then that radiates out to everyone you meet.
You can do it!
Interested in holistic coaching for personal and professional development? Find out more…
Phillip Mountrose shows how taking action can be a success secret, so obvious it might be overlooked.
What’s one of the biggest secrets to success? Taking action is one of the big ones, and is often overlooked. It can be inspired action, deliberate acion or just your next logical step to move forward.
CAUTIOUS OR PASSIONATE?
The ends of the continuum for taking action is action and passion. My wife and partner Jane tends toward caution; I tend toward passion.
Caution can be good at evaluating, but the downside is to get too analytical, perfectionistic and mired in weighing all the possibilities.
Passion, on the other hand, acts on exciting desires. It can be impulsive, however. I can already be doing something, starting a project, before Jane has begun considering it.
We are a good balance for each other. I can spur her forward, she can reign in and prevent reckless actions.
NAPOLEON HILL’S DISCOVERY
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, assessed thousands of successful people. The common trait he found in successful people was decisiveness. They were quick to act and followed through on their decision.
So model yourself after successful people, regardless of whether you favor the cautious or passionate approach.
Have a sense of urgency without being driven or desperate. Be calm and deliberate. As Wallace Wattles advised in his classic The Science of Getting Rich “to act in a certain way.” He meant to think creatively and then act on those dreams in a calm way, without hurry or rush. Act confidently in other words.
MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE
When you act, you externalize your desires and dreams so they manifest in the world.
What then is your next step, your next action? Go for it.
If you’d like to go further with coaching and healing, we invite you to check our our Holistic Coaching with EFT Telecourse Certification, a hands-on, in depth program we’ve developed for 18 years.
How do you have an attractive personality aligned with your soul. Turn up your speaker and
Why have an attractive personality? Well there are many reasons. Not just superficial ones. By being more magnetic, you can accomplish your aims and goals better. If you are attractive, you feel better about yourself.
We are not just talking about physical beauty, ala being a movie star good looks. Everyone can look his or her best.
So this piece is about how to shape yourself into a more attractive person, which leads to becoming a more successful person. Sound good?
Here are some don’t’s for having an attractive personality:
in general, avoid being a pleaser
trying too hard to fit in and maintain the status quo
Instead of being a pleaser person, have a pleasing personality. This means you will design your life to be a more attractive and magnetic person, which will help you and others.
Do’s for developing an attractive personality:
be genuinely interested in others, rather than trying to be interesting yourself
smile and laugh: it stimulates positive hormones
appear attractive to create a good impression, including dressing well and having good grooming
In other words, become more aware of yourself and how you affect others. By developing these positive traits and eliminating the negative ones, your life will get so much better. You will feel better as you align with yourself at a deeper, more soulful level.