{"id":5954,"date":"2023-01-01T14:10:59","date_gmt":"2023-01-01T22:10:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gettingthru.org\/life-coach\/?p=5954"},"modified":"2023-01-25T17:26:49","modified_gmt":"2023-01-26T01:26:49","slug":"best-year-ever","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gettingthru.org\/life-coach\/best-year-ever\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Really Make this the Best Year Ever"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/dZlNENMTSyY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>How can you really make it the best year ever?<\/p>\n<p>The energy of a new year is a natural time to look ahead and set goals. But, as you know, this initial spark can soon fade over time. The better diet, exercise, organizing can start out fine and soon peter out, as the old habits boomerang back to the old set point.<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-5957\" src=\"https:\/\/gettingthru.org\/life-coach\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/clock-ga7f808ba4_640.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"278\" height=\"157\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><strong>What\u2019s Going on with Goal Setting?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>A goal is defined by <em>Merriam-Webster\u2019s Dictionary<\/em> as \u201cthe end toward which effort is directed.\u201d It can help give us direction so we are not spinning our wheels and just letting life pass us by. A goal may motivate us to take challenging actions (change of diet, exercise, routines) now to experience a better future.<\/p>\n<p>As research shows, though, goals can easily become too difficult and defeat our will. What started out as a loft intention can ironically end up lowering our self-esteem in what turns out to be another failed attempt.<!--more--><\/p>\n<h2><strong>Succeeding with Your Goals<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>To make goals more manageable, it\u2019s good to realize a few things. Some goals are \u201cprocess\u201d goals (I\u2019ll eat more vegetables) versus outcome goals (I\u2019ll lose 20 pounds).<\/p>\n<p>Process goals are under our control, as we can manage our own actions.\u00a0 However much we fulfill good practices, though, the process does not assure the outcome, although it can definitely help. Results are largely beyond our control, but not our influence when we apply attention and effort.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s another way to make progress: take small steps, building micro-habits.\u00a0 For example, maybe you will start off with a larger portion of veggies at dinner. Or you\u2019ll do a few stretches after waking up or loosen your body on a foam roller.<\/p>\n<p>You can always make the changes bigger over time. In other words, start out small and easy.<\/p>\n<p>Also helpful is monitoring your self-talk.\u00a0 Instead of \u201cI pigged out again,\u201d you can tell yourself, \u201cI can note what was going on then and start over again. Everyone slips up.\u201d In other words, don\u2019t beat yourself up for the apparent \u201csetback.\u201d Be kind to yourself instead.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Bigger Picture<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Small and big goals have a purpose that can serve you. But let\u2019s go further. What\u2019s perhaps the best way to upgrade your life this year, for a great year and a great life?<\/p>\n<p>It has to do with how we look at things, as either good or bad. The rest of life &#8212; in-between stuff &#8212; often goes by unnoticed (more on this later).<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Good<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>For the \u201cgood\u201d events, we can prioritize appreciating and celebrating them. For that finished project (big or small), passing a test, getting fitter, losing weight, getting organized, finding and sustaining love in your life\u2026 all of these deserve your own recognition.<\/p>\n<p>Think of an accomplishment now (you can use the above list to help) \u2026<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\">Give yourself a congratulatory word or phrase (\u201cGood job, you did it!\u201d).<br \/>\nGive yourself a real or imagined hug.<br \/>\nBreathe a sigh of relief.<br \/>\nDo some <a href=\"https:\/\/gettingthru.org\/learn-eft\/eft-books\/eft-book-audio-video-1\/\">EFT tapping<\/a> to deepen the positive outcome.<br \/>\nDo something nice for yourself (take a walk, look at a beautiful picture, listen to uplifting music).<br \/>\nSmile and feel good.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>The Bad<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>And then for the \u201cbad\u201d events in your life. Oh no, we\u2019re referring to the failures, accidents, illnesses and bad news. The good news, though, is that all this mess can be converted into learning and growing experiences. You can bless the trash, so to speak.<\/p>\n<p>This bad trouble can become good trouble. It can serve as teachers for you, however harsh or seemingly unfair the lessons you face.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Everyday Ordinary Routines<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Then for all the regular, mundane in-between events \u2013 the routines, the autopilot, the repetitive. They can be of value and uplifting too.<\/p>\n<p>Awareness of life\u2019s everyday activities (walking, driving, bathing) can be a sacred ritual, a time to be aware and quietly present. As the Zen Koan advises after awakening and enlightenment: we will still be chopping wood and carrying water.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Where does this all lead?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>By using goals intentionally, celebrating the good, learning from the bad, and paying attention to the ordinary, we need to be in the moment. Yes, this moment.<\/p>\n<p>We then bring our life into current time. In the now, we also meet eternity, where the now forever exists.<\/p>\n<p>Such awareness emboldens and energizes us. We can more easily navigate through life\u2019s ups and downs and ordinariness. We live more fully then, with an open heart and a discerning mind.<\/p>\n<p>Yes \u2013 breathe in then out slowly &#8212; you will be having a great year!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can you really make it the best year ever? The energy of a new year is a natural time to look ahead and set goals. But, as you know, this initial spark can soon fade over time. 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