Become Your Own Confidence Coach and Improve Your Self-Esteem

Strong self-confidence is a characteristic of all highly successful people. Think of the successful people you admire and you will notice that this is true.

Confidence comes naturally to some people, but it generally is not that common. Most people who want to coach themselves to success have to develop this strong sense of confidence and self-esteem. They need to become their own confidence coaches.

This area also touches the essence of holistic life coaching. If you decide you want to become a holistic life coach and help others, coaching clients to build confidence and feel great about themselves as magnificent spiritual beings this is an essential key to their success.

You may wonder why. It’s pretty simple. Most people grew up in environments where they received a lot more criticism than praise. Most also hear a lot more no’s than yeses. Sound familiar?

If so, you know from first hand experience how confidence and self-esteem can suffer. And notice when you feel bad about yourself, everything looks bad, especially your possibilities for creating what you want in life.

Fortunately, this can change and anyone can do it. Would you like to know how to build confidence and improve your self-esteem in the next 30 days?

A 30-Day Challenge for Building More Confidence

On this website, we provide a number of 30-day challenges to help you to become happier and more successful. Studies show that it generally takes about thirty days to change a habit, but it requires a consistent focus every day. This is important information if you want to coach yourself or others.

This challenge is simple and fun. It can also transform your confidence and self-esteem. If you like it, we recommend maintaining it as a lifelong habit.

As you read this, sit up straight and breathe freely. This will get you going in the right direction. If you do this, you’ll discover that it’s hard to feel bad when your posture is straight.

This is an important habit, but there’s more. Your 30-day challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to look for something positive in everyone you encounter. From a holistic perspective, every person is a wonderful spiritual being.

Most don’t know it and their behavior may not yet reflect the beauty that lies within, but you can choose to see it. Look for something positive in people on the street, in the office, everywhere you go. Smile. Say hello (even to strangers). And when the opportunity presents itself, offer a genuine compliment.

The Secret to Confidence and Self Esteem

The key here involves taking your attention off yourself and your concerns about what other people are thinking about you. When you are thinking positive thoughts about other people, you can’t be worried about yourself.

The habit of looking for something positive in every person is simple and profound. In his book The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons, success pioneer Napoleon Hill said that the habit of openly and enthusiastically praising the good qualities in others “will soon reward you with a feeling of self-respect and gratitude from others that will modify your entire personality.”

Hill further stated that “those whom you praise will see, in you, the qualities that you see in them.” Their gratitude will make you feel even better about yourself and you will be likely to seek more opportunities to share genuine compliments with the people you encounter.

Our Experience

When we experimented with this idea, we were amazed with the results! We discovered that when we took our minds off ourselves and brightened the days of those around us, we, too, received the benefits. Our self-consciousness diminished, and we began to enjoy other people more.

There is a common phrase “You get back what you give” and this is certainly true here. With this simple approach, you will find that you naturally enjoy people more and appreciate yourself more. What could be better?

How to Remember the Challenge

One of the stumbling blocks with a challenge like this is remembering to do it. If you are not currently in the habit of connecting in positive ways with other people (including people you don’t yet know, here’s what to do. Get out some post-it notes and write this phrase on them:

“I see the positive and the potential in everyone, including myself.”

This may be one of the most important things you can do if your want to coach yourself to a better life. Whenever you see this message, use it as a reminder to reach out in positive ways to others. Do this each day for the next 30 days or more. Soon, it will become a habit and a natural part of your being. You’ll love others and yourself more.

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